It had been a long day. I had dealt with a class of 30 five year olds who were restless after having wet play. I had a meeting that ran over and prevented me from tidying the classroom at the end of the day. Everything was a mess. I just managed to sort out the reading planning for the next day before running out the school doors to get the train in time to pick up Little Bee (who by the way is 9 and a half now). Nothing was particularly going my way on this particular day. Did I mention the rain?
The minute I got to Little Bee’s dance class, soggy and wet, I was immediately inundated with requests for this dance competition and that dance show, discussions of what thickness of tights to wear for the upcoming competition and which colour sparkly outfit to wear on which day. While I was trying to be Dance Mum of the Year, my daughter was being indecisive about some competition that her dance teacher had asked her to think about and I was trying to send a text to state her decision. Little Bee said no and looked overwhelmed, so I texted no, trying not to be pushy mum. Then she said yes and changed her mind yet again, pleading to go after all. Turns out that Dance Mum of Year had had enough. The frustrations of the day and the pressure to be on top of all this working mum stuff just exploded out of me. I snapped at Little Bee and marched us both out of the building.
Usually our walks home from dance are a time for Little Bee and I to connect. It’s the only time in the week that we get just the two of us so it is precious to both of us. On this evening, though, I was livid. Annoyed at my day, annoyed at the thickness-of-tights drama, annoyed at having to devote so much brain time to my child’s dance passion, annoyed at her indecisiveness and just generally, inexplicably irritated at the world. And as a good Dance Mum of the Year would do, I took most of it out on my Little Bee as we walked (or maybe I should say stomped) home.
She listened, said sorry and tried to explain and listened some more. I eventually calmed down and tried to see the whole thing from her point of view. It wasn’t a total loss, but I did feel pretty crap. We walked on not speaking for a while. A little voice cut into the stormy silence.
“Mum, is that Orion the Hunter?” I always love to find Orion when the sky is clear and so does Little Bee. We stopped and looked up into the clear night sky over the bridge. It is a rare thing in London to see the stars so brightly, especially after such an overcast, rainy day.
“Did you know… ” she went on, “…that each one of those stars is actually a sun of its own? They have their own solar system just like ours. There are so many solar systems in the universe, aren’t there? There is so much space up there, Mum.”
I felt a large lump in my throat. Who even cares about the bloody thickness of tights, a bad day at work, or even a little girl who is feeling indecisive about a dance competition when there are so many solar systems in an ever expanding universe? I reached over and wrapped my arms around my girl. The day was fading away. After all, we are just dots on this spaceship Earth riding in this swirling universe.
The walk home had been saved by a little girl and her stars.